How can I reach orgasm with and without sex toys?
While someone can squirt, it doesn’t mean they’re having an orgasm. As I mentioned earlier in the guide, a female squirting study was undertaken in 2022, “confirming the bladder as the source” [1]. Further research found that squirting happens when your clitoris/vagina is being stimulated, resulting in the “squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine” [3].
Female ejaculation is something some women can learn how to do while others may not be able to do this. Enjoy experimenting while being fully present [with] what you do enjoy,” suggested Cooper, who coined the term “Sex Esteem” to empower and educate people through talks and workshops. Moreover, Cooper even said that those who do squirt don’t always love it. All this hype for something that many squirters wish they weren’t even able to do.
This is different from the sexual secretion that’s created during arousal, which typically lubricates the vagina (sometimes called ‘getting wet’). Squirting often happens during the female orgasm, but that’s not always the case. Not everyone may experience squirting, and not everyone who squirts does so all of the time.
You don’t need a penis—sometimes, the deepest arousal comes without it. The more you build, the more her body opens—and the closer she is to reaching orgasm. The urethral sponge is beyond the vaginal wall, meaning it’s not as easy to access as, say, the clitoris how to make her squirt, which responds well to clit toys. If you still can’t quite get to it, an S-shaped or hooked sex toy should help you.
If you’re skilled enough, do this while rubbing your clit. You can also use sex toys to make it easier for yourself to squirt and feel extra pleasure. Your partner will need to be really relaxed and in my personal experience that’s easier to do if I have something else to concentrate on, rather than having my vagina take centre stage. So a 69 position has worked well for me – providing welcome distraction when the pressure of trying to squirt is preventing it from actually happening.